My journey has been a bit unorthodox. I am a teacher turned manager, turned virtual assistant, an east coast girl transplanted to the west coast and back; a lover of books, cold brew and new places. I’m a daughter, sister, best friend, mentor, cousin, niece, granddaughter and Auntie. In each one of these roles and the changing of seasons I have struggled to navigate my singleness. I wrestled not only with the expectations of others but the desire of my own heart for companionship in marriage. There were seasons where I prayed desperately and boldly for marriage and children – for a family to call my own. Much of this desperation was rooted in my own discontentment because for a long time I believed my worth and value was wrapped up in this idea of “Happily Ever After.” I had to come to a place where I recognized that my purpose is tethered to something greater than myself. My worth is found in who I am in Christ and joy is cultivated through a relationship with him. Maybe marriage may never be a part of my story, but it definitely won’t be the cure for the discontentment in my life. It took me a long time to shift that mindset, to see the beauty in the life God has given me, to appreciate and begin to steward the blessings I already had and press into becoming the woman he created me to be. That does not mean that my desire to be married has faded away, it just means that it’s not robbing me of my ability to be present and fulfilled today. This is the journey I want to share with you; it’s a bumpy ride along the way, but the views from a new perspective are worth the adventure!

Currently I’m learning to fall in love with the place where I grew up, one coffee shop and hiking trial at a time. I’m learning what it means to bloom where you are planted and I’m determined to empower single women to move from a place of discontentment and hopelessness to thriving and fulfillment. Busting the myths about singleness and shining a light on the truth of who God says we are.